Stop Lying to Yourself by Cynthia Newell

No one wants to see themselves as a liar but we all tell lies. We lie to ourselves daily, hard to believe but it’s true.  We paint pictures in our minds about our lives and the people in them that are simply fictitious.  Then we create scenarios to support these lies.  A lot of us don’t even know we are doing this, we’ve done it for so long that it has become our way of being, it has become our natural response.
 
I had had enough.  My family had pushed me to the limit. Why did they feel that I was supposed to keep the entire house clean by myself, cook homemade meals every other day, be energetic and bubbly, hold everything together and be happy about it.  After having the same stale conversation with my daughter about cleaning up behind herself, irritated and bothered, I headed straight to my walk-in closet to vent.  With angry tears welling up in my eyes and steam coming from ears, I started pacing the floor and mumbling how my family does not care about what’s important to me. Not only had I convinced myself that no one in my household understood all of the work I do as an entrepreneur, I also believed they didn’t care about my success.  I made up lies about how my family would fall to pieces if something were to happen to me and accepted it as my duty to handle all the responsibilities.  These lies were making my life very unpleasant; there were times when I felt helpless and in some sort of way that I was being wronged.

Whatever we believe within, truth or lies, know something outside of us that will validate it.  Our outer world is a mere reflection of what’s happening within.  The real truth was that in any moment I could change how things were playing out in my home life.  The real truth was that these thoughts were only true if I believed them. 

What lies are you choosing to believe about your situation or the people in your life?  Our beliefs dictate how we treat others and affect how we interpret how they’re treating us.  If you believe your boss has it out for you, your actions will most likely be defensive. If you believe your spouse is a cheater and a liar then you will most likely deal with them suspiciously.  If you believe you are unworthy of unconditional love and respect will probably get involved with people that do not exhibit this kind of behavior.

Stop lying to yourself by telling yourself you can’t have the life you’ve always imagined living.  Stop lying to yourself by telling yourself you can’t change your self-image by believing that you will always be fat or that change is impossible.  Stop lying to yourself by telling yourself you are unlovable because of the mistakes you’ve made in your past.  Stop lying to yourself by believing that everyone in the world is against you and that you are all alone.  Remember, your outer world is a mere reflection of what’s happening within you. 

Until next time, make it a great day,
Cynthia